7 Reasons Why We Should Live for God Before Dating

7 Reasons Why We Should Live for God Before Dating

You may approach romance young but you are never too young to start it right; whether you be in a romantic relationship or not. You are never too young to start any relationship right. In other words: you are never too young to start any relationship with God as the center in it. That's the only way a relationship can be right. God as the center; not the side, not in the corner, but in the center.

You may grow up in a Christian home, you may not and odds are you won't, sadly. But whether you did or not grow up in a Christian home or even grow up Christian by yourself (it happens) by the time you reach junior high you will come face-to-face with the facts that this world can be very sensual, and sensuality is a sin.  I'm afraid we live in a very sinning world though. Luckily, for us, God gave us a guide to live by. He talks to us about sensuality several times in the Bible and one verse goes over this in Romans 13:13.

"Let us behave properly as in the day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and sensuality, not in strife and jealousy,..."

The Bible simply tells us not to do it. So, remember this verse; let us behave not in sensuality. Remember, keep God in the center of all things and relationships. You may be tempted but please don't let Satan fool you or your eyes. You may be tempted to have an ungodly attitude and you may be tempted to have ungodly relationships. You may want to embrace it, embrace all of it, but you can't; you mustn't. It will hurt God and then it will hurt you. You must keep your attitude righteous and fit for the Lord.

"It is he who will go as a forerunner before Him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the fathers back to the children, and the disobedient to the attitude of the righteous, so as to make ready a people prepared for the Lord." - Luke 1:17

1.) You Should Definitely Fear God

If you're fearing God you're living for Him too. If you're not living for God you're living for sin and for your own pleasure. You're not living for the right reasons anymore causing God to be angry. Sooner than you know you'll start cussing and using foul language that God specifically says to not use. It's one of Satan's tactics that he uses on us. It's something you think of as not being that bad, but, my friend, all sin will do is send you to hell. Satan makes us think that cussing isn't that bad, just like lying, because in our minds we think they are small sins; nothing compared to sins like murder or rape. When we think sin we automatically think crime sins; the big ones, but we often let the little ones slip. All Satan wants is for you to go to hell because he hates God and so he hates His children. He makes you think: "hey, this isn't that bad", when in reality it's very bad. They're just empty words that will cause you to sin; causing you to feel empty too. Rather, fear God, claims the Bible.

"Do not let your speech cause you to sin and do not say in the presence of the messenger of God that it was a mistake. Why should God be angry on account of your voice and destroy the work of your hands? For in many dreams and in many words there is emptiness. Rather, fear God." -Ecclesiastes 5:6-7

2.) Marriage is Sacred

Marriage is when two bodies become one and you bloom into one soul; so if you hurt your spouse you're really hurting yourself. It's far more than just a piece of paper or a ceremony. It's abiding into each other, forever. It's more than abiding into each other too; it's abiding in God together. It's like three ropes tying into each other; it's not easily broken. 

Marriage is very honorable. It's an honor to get married, really. Finding someone who loves you just as much as you love them? Now that is God. Marriage is such an honor that anything sexual before it is a sin and deeply frowned upon and the Lord will judge the ones who have done this.

"Marriage is to be held in honor among all and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge." -Romans 13:4

3.) God Only Wants You to be With One Person

If you date one person and then another and then another you're just giving out pieces of your heart that you will never get back. God doesn't want that for us. I honestly believe he doesn't want us to even date but instead to court because all dating ever did for me was heartbreak. Now that I'm older I wish I could've saved all those pieces of my heart for my husband. I wish I could've gave everything to my husband instead of wasting a whole lotta tears on teenage boys.

 I feel like most of my life was wasted because it was spent on boys and not God. I filled up my own life with confusion, stress, tears and heartbreak. I wish that I was wiser back then; I wish I had listened to God. Now I will never get to share all my firsts with my husband. Instead, it was all just wasted on people I will never talk to again because each relationship ended terribly for me.

4.) Courting

Courtship is different than dating because it filters out the worldly parts of dating like kissing for example. A first kiss is so much more special if it's saved for your wedding day and shared only with one person instead of someone in your past. It also hurts a lot less realizing your spouse or future spouse didn't go around kissing a bunch of people before they met you. It will bring your future spouse so much joy in their heart knowing that you saved your first kiss just for them all throughout the years of waiting. 

Courtship is truly getting to know someone before it ever becomes physical in any way; it's watching someone, watching how they act, watching how they grow and how they live for God. Courtship is a great example of what true love looks like because it's guarding your own heart and most importantly God's heart first. You're protecting both while looking for one. People may say courtship takes too much time and is not worth it but those people are not after God's heart but their own and those people have no patience in them. Courtship is patience and patience is love.

5.) Temptation is Real

Temptation is real but it isn't a sin; action is. The act is what will send you to hell without repenting for it. For even the most perfect person, Jesus, was tempted by Satan. It's so very easy to be tempted by Satan and one of his favorite temptations he likes to tempt us with is sexual immorality. It's tempting to do physical things before marriage that's why it's important for you to live your life for God before even considering courting or dating someone so it won't be as hard. If you're not living for God and Satan tempts you there's no rule, no god, nothing stopping you from committing that sin; it becomes just a choice that you make.

Whenever we are tempted all we must do is pray to God and walk away either physically or mentally and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace instead and the devil will flee from you.

6.) Peer Pressure Meets No Boundaries

In today's society it is pure peer pressure to date and to date as much as you can but honestly dating is just a gateway for sexual immorality to enter. Dating is all about the physical features and very little of commitment. In reality, dating should only be applied if you're ready for marriage because that's what it was originally designed for. In today's time, dating has a whole new meaning and it's too exclusive. Anybody, all ages, can do it now and it's just accepted. Just because something is accepted in our culture does not always mean it is accepted by God.

7.) Do Not Be Bound Together by Unbelievers

The Bible tells us to not marry someone who is an unbeliever and this doesn't just mean they don't believe in God, no, it means anyone who doesn't follow the law of God because if you don't follow the rules it's almost as if you don't believe they're real. All it does when you marry someone or commit to someone who doesn't follow God's commandments is dim your light. Every time they sin in front of you it hurts and this just might last the rest of your life so please keep that in mind.

If it hurts God it will hurt you because that's who you're living for; and you're not just living for any ordinary god, you're living for a living god! We, as Christians, are a temple of the living God so it only makes sense to not be in a committed relationship with an unbeliever. Heaven is made up by God's temple (Christians) and an unbeliever is someone who won't make it to heaven.

The only committed relationship you should have is with God until you are absolutely ready and sure you have found the one God wants you to be with.

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